Dirt: how do you handle yours?

Have you ever found yourself in sort of a funk and find yourself only hearing negative (for sake of this post, I will refer to this as “dirt”) things about others, or maybe only engaging in dirt talk? I know I have!

Recently I was on the phone with my sister and we were doing the usual venting, seeking advice, and just getting some frustrations out… both of us were trying to achieve the same thing, gain support and feel happiness; only we were going about it the wrong way! You see, we were just flinging the dirt around, smearing it in and flinging it back and forth. What we both wanted was to be free of this dirt, free from the negativity surrounding each of us, some the same and other bits, individualized. When the negative feelings were just festering and I felt myself getting more and more upset at some of the things we were talking about, I paused for a moment, put myself in time out. (After all, if you have nothing nice to say then you should say nothing at all right?! RIGHT!! It really doesn’t do us the good that we think it does when we just talk about the icky stuff in our lives or that surrounds us.)

So how do we deal with the dirt, clean it up and feel better, without just smearing it around? We seek the “relief of this dirt” but I think we fail to see that all we are doing is spreading it around and putting it into someone else’s world. That makes for a mess! You don’t need to wait for the next conversation or another day or time to stop the dirt from spreading… you can stop right in the middle of the dirt fight. That’s what we did! After my momentary “time out,” I asked my sister if she wanted to bring her kids up and let them play and suggested that in the midst of our freezing temperatures we do something that is normally only done in the summer, we make dirt cups! I knew it was a cheesy idea and she probably would think I was crazy, but I just wanted to change the direction of our conversation, and more importantly, the feelings we were experiencing. To my surprise, she said “yes” and was here in no time.


Maybe we should’ve been out playing in the fresh snow, finding winter activities, but there was something about the notion of making dirt cups that sounded more like “what the doctor ordered” than anything else. I am so glad we did such a random & dirty thing… I think our kids were too. After a long week, and all of the dirt that even our kids were dealing with in their daily lives too, we ended it on a perfectly and more positive mess making note. Such a fun time… simple, and not seeking something perfect to display or blog about, rather living in the moment and sharing something genuine with you, even if it is a bit dirty.


The philosophy behind this site and blog for me is to constantly find ways to be a better version of myself each day, to practice being a better person, and to GO BEAUTIFULLY even when I want to throw dirt. I’m not talking about gossip here (that’s not what my sis and I were doing), although that is dirt too, but more so not focusing on the negatives in our lives. The next time you find yourself venting or throwing dirt… put yourself in timeout, and do something spontaneous. Maybe you could even make dirt cups… pretty therapeutic if I may say so myself. (recipe below)


I want to hear from you… how do you handle your dirt?

Here is to a more beautiful and clean 2017, one day/one conversation, one thought at a time… leave the dirt where it belongs.

“When you throw dirt you lose ground.” -Texan Proverb



Dirt Cups for Kids Recipe
Serves 6
Easy! Delicious and Fun! Kids will love it!
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Prep Time
10 min
Cook Time
1 hr
Total Time
1 hr 10 min
Prep Time
10 min
Cook Time
1 hr
Total Time
1 hr 10 min
  1. 2 Cups Cold Milk
  2. 1 Package Instant Chocolate Pudding Mix
  3. 1 (8 ounce) Container Cool Whip
  4. (16 ounce) Package of Oreo Cookies (crushed)
  5. 6-10 Clear Plastic Cups
  6. 1 Package Gummy Worms (amount optional)
  1. Pour milk into a large mixing bowl.
  2. Add pudding mix.
  3. Beat with whisk until well blended, 1 to 2 minutes.
  4. Let stand for 5 minutes.
  5. Stir in whipped topping and half of the crushed cookies.
  6. Place 1 tablespoon crushed cookies into bottom of cups.
  7. Fill cups 3/4 full with pudding mixture.
  8. Top with remaining crushed cookies.
  9. Refrigerate for 1 hour.
  10. Decorate with the candy.
  1. You may also substitute making pudding with pre-made pudding options at the store for sake of time.
  2. Some people use other candy (e.g. gummy flowers or frogs, etc.) and crushed nuts.
  3. If you don't have the special plastic cups... improvise, we did. Makes it more fun!
Adapted from Food.com
Adapted from Food.com
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Post inspired by my aunt who recently told me, “You could write about dirt and make it sound like the greatest thing in the world.” Well, considering what dirt does and how we cannot actually exist without it, I’d say it is among the greatest and most necessary elements in the world… it has its place… just not meant to be flung! 😉 And while I may not exactly make dirt sound like the greatest thing… I appreciate the love and belief in me auntie! xo





    Great blog and great metaphor on negativity. I’m going to start using the word, ‘dirt’. I like it. Thank you!

  2. I love this post and thank you for including me in your journey in bettering ourselves. It was a much needed fun activity and reminder to stop getting caught up in the mess and play in the dirt haha;).

  3. Dondi Jones

    for me when I feel negative about something or someone I first acknowledge it for with me to just sweep it under the rug and say “nope I need to be positive and only think positive thoughts” it doesn’t work. So instead I reflect on why I feel negative about it and then do the reaffirming thoughts for me of a world full of contrasts. To know joy I must know sorrow, to know understanding I must first know misunderstanding or frustration, to know compassion I must first know distance, to know forgiveness I must first know anger and so on. For me this helps to know why I feel what I am feeling and to then move forward.

  4. Shirleen

    Once again Chandra you have proven you have a gift with words 😘

    Love and agree with your post Dondie!

    I am a true believer in fate. In what comes around goes around. And things happen for a reason. We are given only one life on earth, so why live it with negativity. Negativity is such a waste of energy and time.

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